Your Baby Will NEVER, EVER Sleep Through The Night – And, Here’s Why…
Did you know that your baby will NEVER, EVER sleep through the night?
And, news flash, you don’t either!
These two sentences are confusing because I tell every client that I can teach your baby to sleep through the night in a few short nights, which is totally true, so stick with me!
Anyone who isn’t sedated at bedtime will wake up many times every night.
You won’t wake because your day was stressful, you drank caffeine for dinner, or (GASP) you didn’t exercise or any of the other stuff that keeps us up at night.
These wakeups are totally normal and a natural part of our sleep cycle.
Think about your sleep and you can start to see that you cycle through sleep many times each night. Even if you can’t pinpoint it, I’m sure you know the difference between being woken up from light sleep or deep sleep – because there is a difference…
What Happens When We Sleep?
When we fall asleep, we spend some time in a light stage of sleep and progress into a deep sleep. We hang out there for a while and then slowly emerge into a light stage. It’s during this light phase of sleep that there’s a good chance we’ll wake up, even if it’s brief.
Amazing, right? You fall asleep at 10 pm (not me, I go to bed much earlier, LOL), hit deep sleep by about 11 pm and hang out there until you slowly come to the surface in the morning…
Except, this entire process only takes about 90 minutes!
That’s right! The entire human sleep cycle takes about 90-110 minutes.
The good news is that for us adults, this entire process repeats itself all night long fairly easily. We might wake for 1-2 minutes and fall immediately back to sleep, or we might not even wake at all. You may or may not remember cycling through sleep.
In a perfect night’s sleep, this happens 5-6 times in a row. We get a restful, rejuvenating sleep, and we enjoy the benefits of it throughout the day.
What Does This Have To Do With Babies & Sleep?
Are you wondering what this has to do with our little ones?
Babies, even though they need a lot more sleep than adults, actually have a shorter sleep cycle.
Infants go from very light sleep to deep sleep and back again in 50 minutes!
I’ve always thought the term “sleep like a baby” came from someone that was misinformed. It should definitely be “sleep like a husband”, but that’s for another blog…
It’s sleep cycles that make sleep training essential for your baby.
Contrary to popular belief, my sleep plans don’t teach your baby to stay asleep or spend more time in a deep sleep.
What they do is teach your baby to fall asleep without “help” from anything external, and when they “wake-up” between a sleep cycle we help your baby accept these as no big deal and get right back to sleep.
When a baby wakes multiple times each night, it’s between sleep cycles and how they put those sleep cycles together depends on how they fell asleep at bedtime.
If you “help” a baby to sleep and they come to the surface between sleep cycles, they’re going to wonder where you are and who or what is going to “help” them back to sleep.
Once a baby has learned to fall asleep independently, their brain will signal them to go back to sleep between sleep cycles, and that’s precisely what will happen!
That’s the heart of what I teach babies every day!
Understanding Sleep Training
Sleep training is important for parents to understand for a few reasons.
We’re not altering your baby’s natural sleep. We’re merely giving them the skills to put themselves back to sleep after a sleep cycle.
And, now you know this happens all night long with their short sleep cycles.
I hear from critics sometimes that babies are supposed to wake up at night.
That, my friends, is 100% true! Just like us, babies are designed to wake at night. The truth is it would take some powerful sedatives to stop a baby from waking in the night.
However, you can teach a baby to stay calm, understand they know what to do between sleep cycles, and peacefully go back to sleep without your “help”.
Sleep training will not put your child at an increased risk for SIDS, alter their natural sleep, or damage them in any way. You don’t have to believe me; I have the full support of the American Academy of Pediatrics to back me up. 😉
What sleep training will do is ensure that your baby AND you get the rest you need to be the happiest, healthiest people.
So, your baby is going to wake multiple times each night for the rest of their lives. Teach them the skills they need to get back to sleep without “help” from you, and it’ll seem as though they’re sleeping through the night.
Wondering how to get your baby sleeping “through” the night?
The 7 Sleep Tips For Sleeping Through The Night are a great place to start.